Friend steps out of cohosting a cookout as she was in charge of all the expenses for people that aren't even her friends: 'I’d rather attend as a regular guest.'

Something as good as a gathering with friends can end with the discovery that your friends aren't who you thought.

A cookout with friends, music, and decorations sounds great. Well, it can go wrong quickly. When somebody hosts a gathering, the guests are expected to either contribute or bring something so that the burden is not only placed on the hostess. This is common knowledge among most people and cultures, but that doesn't mean that everybody respects it. When you organize something like this, you have to be aware of how your friends behave with this and then make the decision of whether you want to host or not.

In this Reddit story, the user described that when he realized that a lot of people –who aren't his friends– were going to come, he figured that he would have to pay even more, as those people didn't have the behaviour of contributing to them. When I read that the story changed the topic to me, it went from being screwed over for money to pay for some other people's party to the lack of manners that some individuals have.

Being a decent human being involves not expecting everything to be taken care of by somebody else, especially if you aren't even friends with that person. The entitlement that the people in this story had is incredible. First, the friend expecting this user to pay for everything just because, then the other friend that started to invite people without consulting or even contributing anything, and lastly the guests who did not care who was paying for everything as long as it wasn't them.

Maybe the problem wasn't just the friend, maybe it was the whole friend group, with their lack of accountability and the poor manners they have.