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‘Two girlfriends of the guys involved [also] dumped them’: Woman discovers her boyfriend and his friends ran a months-long “loyalty test” on her, leaves him, and shares the screenshots

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  • Woman lying in bed under a blanket while looking at her phone in warm low light.
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  • I (22F) had been dating my boyfriend (24M) for almost two years. Things were good, or at least I thought they were.
  • A few months ago, I got a DM from a random guy on Instagram. He was attractive and started making small talk. At first I
  • assumed he was just being friendly, but after a few days he started flirting.
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  • I immediately told my boyfriend because I thought it was weird.
  • He laughed and said the guy was probably just shooting his shot.
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  • The messages kept coming. He asked if I was happy in my relationship, complimented me constantly, and eventually asked if I wanted to meet up.
  • Woman sitting beside a bed in blue light, staring suspiciously at her phone near a nightstand.
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  • I blocked him.
  • A week later, another guy messaged me. Then another.
  • At this point I was getting annoyed. One of the accounts accidentally sent me a screenshot that included a group chat notification. I recognized the profile picture of one of my boyfriend's best friends.
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  • I got suspicious.
  • Woman sitting on the floor beside a bed at night, looking worried while reading her phone in warm lamp light.
  • So I did some digging. One account was using stolen photos from a fitness influencer. Another was using pictures from a university athlete's public profile. None of the accounts belonged to the people in the photos.
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  • I confronted my boyfriend. He denied everything. Then I showed him the evidence.
  • Turns out he and four of his friends had created fake male accounts to "test my loyalty" because one of them was convinced that every girlfriend cheats if given enough opportunities.
  • They'd been doing it for months. Apparently every time I blocked an account, they'd create another one because they wanted to see if I'd eventually respond.
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  • I asked if he seriously thought catfishing me with fake men was normal behavior. He said it wasn't a big deal because I passed every test.
  • Passed. Like I was some kind of social experiment. I was furious.
  • So when mutual friends started asking why we'd suddenly broken up, I sent screenshots of the messages and explained exactly what happened.
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  • I didn't post them publicly, but the screenshots spread quickly through our friend group. The fallout was immediate.
  • Woman smiling at her phone while sitting up in bed under blue light, looking pleased and relieved.
  • Several people thought the whole thing was manipulative and creepy. Two of the girlfriends of the guys involved dumped them after learning they'd spent months running fake accounts to test women.
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  • Now my ex says I overreacted. He claims it was a private relationship issue and that I had no right to tell other people.
  • According to him, I ruined multiple friendships and relationships over something that was meant to be harmless.
  • Some people agree and think I should've just broken up quietly.
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  • Others think if a person's actions fall apart the second people find out about them, maybe those actions weren't harmless to begin with.
  • Edit: Wow, I didn't expect this to get so many responses. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to comment and share your opinions. I'm reading through
  • everything and trying to respond where I can, so thank you if I haven't gotten to yours yet.
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  • I'll also update once I've had a chance to send him this post and show everyone his response!! Thank you all again for making me feel less insane.

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