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Surprised my (26M) situationship (24F) with a gift and she called me a stalker
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I (26M) am in a situationship with K. (24F) for about eight months now. Over the last couple of months, she’s been under a lot of stress with school, and I’ve been doing my best to support her. Since we’re in the same field, I’ve helped out with her essays and presentations, and I’ve been giving her rides so she can get home earlier and actually unwind. I’m basically just trying to show up for her whenever I can.
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Lately, though, she’s been getting more aggressive with me. I haven’t really called her out on it because I figured she was just stressed and didn't mean anything by it.
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A model portrays someone confused and hurt after a relationship misunderstanding, sitting on a couch while looking at a tablet.
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Well, two days ago, K. was having a particularly rough day, so I decided to surprise her on campus with some chocolate. I know her routine by now, so finding her wasn't an issue. I wasn't expecting her to jump into my arms or anything (she’s definitely not into PDA) but I certainly didn’t expect her to be angry
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K. called me a stalker and sarcastically asked if I was going to "start following her around." It took me a second to process that. I just said, "Wait, what? No! wth? I just... chocolate," as I put the box on her desk (yeah, I’m not exactly great with words). She glanced at the candy, looked back at me, and then (still sounding annoyed) asked me to look at what she was working on. After I gave her some feedback, she packed up and said she was grabbing lunch with a friend. Since K’s never introduced me to her friends, I took that as my cue to leave and went my own way.
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Since then, I’ve been worried that I overstepped a boundary. I’ve always tried to be mindful of making sure she feels safe, and now I’m terrified I’ve done the opposite. What do you guys think? How do I handle this?
I’d ask my friends, but they aren't exactly the easiest people to talk to about this stuff. -
A representative photo of a model portraying someone distressed, like after a relationship misunderstanding, sitting with his face in his hand.
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Back to the chocolate. He showed up because he knew her routine after eight months of consistently showing up for her, and she called it stalking. He was not wrong for knowing where she would be. He was just operating on a completely different understanding of what they were to each other, and nobody ever bothered to sync those up. That is the situationship trap in real time. You get all the closeness without any of the clarity, and then one day someone brings chocolate and the whole thing falls apart over a box of truffles.
She looked at the candy, asked for some feedback on her work anyway, and then went to lunch with friends he has never once been introduced to. That one detail says everything. Eight months in and he has never met a single person in her life. No amount of rebranding changes what that actually is.
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This woman does not like you OR she doesn’t like being seen in public with you in more than a colleague type way
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This! He gave her a gift in public. She’s keeping him a secret from her friends. Get out, OP.
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