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Community Cleanup Leader Refuses to Sign Off on Teen Boy's 4-hour Volunteer Shift: 'His mom said I was humiliating him in public '

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    https://unsplash.com/photos/man-holding-trash-bags-with-volunteers-cleaning-beach-GFb7OjzFlE0
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    AITA for refusing to sign off on 4 volunteer hours for a teen who was only there for less than an hour?

    We had a community clean up in our neighborhood on last Saturday near the park.
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    Teens work together to pick up trash in an outdoor setting, as demonstrated by models.
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    Nothing major, just picking up trash ect. I was helping there out as a volunteer. A lot of teens came to earn volunteer hours for school. Rule is simple, you show up, sign in, do the work and at the end I sign a sheet with actual time.
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    One guy showed up with his mom around 9:15 (clean started at 9). He signed in, grabbed gloves and a trash bag, took a couple of photos by the supplies table and headed toward the trail.
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    Teen walks away from his peers who are still picking up trash, as he leaves to get a coffee with his Mom, as shown in a depiction by models.
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    About 20 minutes later, I noticed he wasn't in any of the groups. I didn't go looking for him bc I'm not a babysitter, just thought maybe he was with another team. But all the groups were handingin their bags to me and I didn't see him again.
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    Around 12:30, when we were already wrapping up, he showed up again with an iced coffee in his hand. His mom came up to me with a school form and asked me to sign for 4 hours. I told her I couldn't. According to what I saw, he was there
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    Group of teens pick up litter by a lake, as models show in a depiction.
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    for less than an hour. I agreed to sign for 45 minutes or 1 hour maximum, but not 4. She immediately got tense and said he was "around" and helping somewhere further down the trail. I said that if one
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    of the team leads confirmed it, I'd sign for more, but I couldn't do it without that. She lowered her voice and said he needed those hours for a school requirement, otherwise he'd be in trouble. I said it felt
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    Group of teens with filled-up trash bags following their 4-hour shift, in a demonstration from 5 models.
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    strange to me to sign for something that didn't happen. Guy stood there silently, didn't say anything and was staring at his phone.
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    After his mom said I was humiliating him in public, though there were almost no people. I replied that I wasn't calling him lazy or anything like that, I just wouldn't sign for 4 hours if he hadn't actually worked them.
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    I ended up siging 1 hour and seeing him and his mom angrily leaving the park. Now I'm not sure about my decision and even feel myself a bit cruel, but it seems to me that volunteer hours will
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    lose their meaning if all would show up, take a picture and ask parents to ask others to sign the paper. AITA?
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    People couldn't believe that the Mom would encourage her teen to skip out on his program

    tinyd71 The issue is that the teen's lack of responsibility/accountability is being supported and encouraged by his mother.
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    It's not cruel to be honest to sign knowing he didn't do the work devalues the time commitment of the others who DID do the work. NTA
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    Nearly everyone agree that this person did the right thing

    Georgette-William NTA. You did exactly what the form is for. He showed up, took pictures, disappeared, came back with coffe and his mom tired to turn that into 4 hours because he "just: needed it. That is not volunteering, that's failed attempt to be very tricky.
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    You also even agreed to sign 1 hour of working though I think that he didn't work even that. Absolutely more than fair.
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    BeKind999 NTA the mother was out of line trying to game the system.
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    What kind of example would it set if this person let the laziest teen slip through the program without lifting a finger?

    FloridaManTPA NTA. YWBTA to all the other kids and adults who gave their time if you did sign the fraudulent time slip.

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