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    Expecting wife finds out dad still takes phone calls from ex-fiancé of 5 years: 'He gives him life advice'

    Is it OK for an ex to still want contact with your parents?

    It is common knowledge that breakups can be a struggle, and everyone processes them differently. Sometimes they take a lot of time to heal from, and that is normal! So long as the effort is made to push through it and come out the other side with more hindsight and maturity, it takes however long it takes.

    At the same time, not everybody is capable of going through this particular pain without doing things that could be a little regrettable. Arguably, almost nobody handles a breakup with grace, but there comes a point where doing the work has to become less messy and more of an ongoing internal process. It helps nobody to lash out.

    Some people find it impossible to accept that their ex doesn't want a relationship with them, and they will do everything in their power to try to stay in their lives. One method of doing this is through staying in contact with their friends and family. Sadly, not everybody can trust their loved ones to uphold a boundary that will keep a pesky ex away. It is likely to cause problems somewhere down the line.

     

     

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    • In this story, a happily married mom-to-be stumbled upon a secret that upset her. She had broken up with her ex-fiancé nearly half a decade ago, but her mom and dad had secretly been taking phone calls with him the whole time.

      She only realized this after her ex contacted her recently, and claimed that their families had made fun of her now-husband together. The parents claimed that they were willing to talk to him because they pitied him and felt that he needed life advice. She wasn't sure if she was being too sensitive about the matter.

    • Found out my dad has been secretly taking calls from my ex-fiancé for YEARS

      Five years ago I left a relationship with my then-fiancé after realizing that continuing the relationship and marrying him would've been the worst decision of my life. Since then, I've married a wonderful man and we're
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    • now expecting our first child. Life honestly turned out exactly how I hoped it would. Seriously, if you're in a terrible relationship, leave!!! But here's my issue.
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    • Yesterday I found out that my ex has apparently been calling my mum and dad whenever he gets drink, and my dad talks to him and gives him life advice. This has apparently been happening in secret for the last 4.5 years?!?!?!
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    • The reason I even found out is because about 6 months ago my ex randomly texted me out of nowhere after years of no contact. He started writing about how "my family and his family made fun of my now husband.” I blocked him immediately because I thought, "what a loser, can't let go after almost 5 years," and my husband just laughed and called him cringe.
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    • But the things he texted me... really mean things about my husband, kept bugging me. Not because I care what my ex thinks, but because he was talking about my own family being on his side?!?! I finally confronted my mum about it yesterday and she basically admitted that my dad answers when he calls drink because he "feels bad for him."
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    • Am I overreacting for thinking this is really inappropriate and I feel humiliated?
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    • Mainerlovesdogs Your Dad isn't just giving him life advice. He's gossiping about your husband to your ex. This crosses so many boundaries it's hard for me to express how outraged I am on your behalf. I'm so sorry. You have decisions to make about how much you want your Dad to
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    • be involved in your life, now that you know he's "tattling" about you to a horrible ex. Your Dad clearly needs to be on an "information diet", google that phrase if you're not familiar with it.
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    • Also, your ex is an extremely unreliable source. However, it's worth investigating whether your family members are trash talking about your husband. You need to know who has your back and who is stabbing you in it.
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    • tigerz0973 NOR I'd be seriously annoyed if my parents were entertaining my ex bad mouthing my husband. It's been 5 years ex and parents really need to let it go now it's beyond cringe.
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    • hippofippo NOR. Very inappropriate to keep him looped into your family life still. The ex sounds unhinged too so it's even more concerning. Your dad can technically do what he wants but there's a cost to it. Have you spoken to your dad about it yet?
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    • Ivan Markowkane NOR - Forward the texts to BOTH parents and ask if what the ex claims is true- you can't make any reasonable decisions without at least talking to your parents
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    • writing_mm_romance I think it's fair to ask your parents about what they've been saying and what they've talked about. I would also be clear their honesty is important, and then determine your future communication with your family.
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    • Ben Wez NOR. I dont think its a huge deal them answering his calls (a little weird for sure) - but the badmouthing is the issue.
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    • Its probably unhealthy for your parents to continue entertaining him as he's likely only calling them because he's clinging into some kind of desperate hope that you'll get back together
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    • They should shut it down just for the sake of everyone's mental health! But at the absolute least they need to stop the badmouthing and make it clear to your ex that it will not be tolerated.
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    • HeadOil5581 Your ex is still raw about the breakup and is succeeding in hurting you. Thank goodness he's out of your life. Make it for good and completely block him without telling him (because he's looking
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    • telling him (because he's looking for reactions from you). Your dad is a grownup and can talk to whomever he wants to. Maybe he sees this guy as his "project". I'd just ask him not to share things about you and your family. He's not your problem anymore and I wouldn't allow myself to spend a single thought about him. It's what he wants.
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