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    Man goes through 3rd dates phone while she was in the bathroom, doesn't understand why she's freaked out

    What would you do if someone went through your phone without looking? 

    Your phone is an exceedingly private place. It's where your whole life lands. It's where you correspond with people, where you make plans, where you write down your deepest, darkest thoughts. It's where you talk smack about others behind their backs, and it's where you confess secret crushes. If someone has access to your phone, they might as well have access to your full psyche. So it's no wonder that you would want to keep that to yourself, especially around people you don't know that well. Even more so in a dating context. When you're first getting to know someone, there are probably things you want to keep from them. Not in a malicious way, just in a polite and private way. You're entitled to your own boundaries, and you don't need to cross them just to keep someone else happy. 

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      Guy went through my phone notifications on date while i was in the bathroom... Am I overreacting?

      I (28F) have been on 4 dates with this guy (31M). Friday, we were sitting at a bar after dinner and i got up to use the bathroom. I left my phone and purse sitting on the bar not thinking anything of it. Later, after many drinks, we went back to his apartment had some more drinks and were being intimate (for the first time). A few
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      moments into kissing he paused and asked something very personal that he only would have known about me if he had looked at my phone because of a very specific app i have notifications from. The app is for something very specific that he definitely would NOT know or even guess about me without seeing it on my phone. We went right back to it
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      but i was bamboozled trying to figure out how he would've known that about me and it wasn't until the next morning laying in his bed while he was still asleep that i put 2:2 together that he had gone through my notifications.
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      I don't want to share what the exact notification was because it's very private, but I'm more concerned about the fact that he took a scroll through my notifications. Honestly speaking, is this something you've done to a dates phone before? Like just out of curiosity to see what
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      they're up to? The phone was locked so he could only see apps/contact names in my notifications, not the details of what the actual notification was. He probably wouldn't have made the comment if we weren't so tipsy. I'd love any opinions on this situation. TY.
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      EDIT: adding that the notification was from earlier that day in the morning, he had to have scrolled through my notifications. There was no notification from the app that came through during our time together.
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      A man and a woman sit at a table on a date, the woman shows her phone
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    • But sometimes you meet someone who doesn't give you a choice. They're going to break your boundaries whether you like it or not, and you probably don't like it. That's what happened in this dating story, where a man couldn't quite accept that his date's phone was not his property to look at. And when he did, it sent a chill down her spine. When you're first talking to someone romantically, you just want it to be normal. There are so many things that can go wrong that you're just hoping that it will be chill. But so often, it isn't. Why is it that when you're dating someone new, you meet types of people you never would have otherwise? Maybe you don't have any friends like them, and you don't know how to deal with their particular brand of neurosis. That's what happened here, when a woman encountered a man with whom she didn't know how to proceed. From where she was standing, he crossed a huge boundary. The way he saw it, he was just doing what he does. Keep reading to see what hap

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      _Ko_ko sounds like he vividly waved the red flag seriously, checking someone's phone while they're in the restroom is very invasive and disrespectful
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      Zealousideal_Turn890 Redflag if he went through but is there a possibility that you left your phone facing upwards and notification came and he saw it? If thats the thing I meant its maybe okay to ask? I dont know the context of the app but if it was like a dating app or sth i would ask
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      beliefinphilosophy You're not overreacting, and it's not about whether or not you are "trustworthy" or "have anything to hide". Thats a manipulation tactic.
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      At 4 dates, this person is still a stranger. To expect someone to give up their boundaries at 4 dates is insane. And the fact that they didn't ask or tell you, but "snuck" it and then probably intentionally dropped the comment to freak you out. This person is terrible news.
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      ● They knew what they were doing was wrong • The second you . weren't around they were unable to respect civil boundaries • They manipulatively dropped the question
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      They went into reading it with some sort of expectations or need to find "evidence" Block them immediately. Don't tell them why, don't engage, don't wait for them to make comments about it. Just block them everywhere.
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      night-laughs Of course it's not normal to go through the phone of someone you just met, especially without asking lol. Guy's a weirdo
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      Defiant_Farm_303 He invaded your personal information/space. I wouldn't touch someone's belongings without asking for their permission first.
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      Inside_Community 7970 No its not ok the fact that hes looking through your phone from just 4 dates that he shouldn't have to look through your phone unless he doesn't trust you for some reason
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      my_metrocard It's not normal to touch any of your belongings without asking first, much less scrolling through your notifications! Massive invasion of privacy.
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      kevin_r13 Not over reacting. You're under reacting. Also, put a passcode or thumb print or something on your phone.
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      If you ever lose your phone, someone will have immediate access to everything on your phone without even trying hard
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