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27-year-old saves for over a year to gift Mom a cruise, the day after she gives her the tickets, the mom books a 2nd cruise for the entire family: 'She completely overshadowed my gift'

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  • I (27F) gifted my mom (47F) her first cruise for Mother's Day this year. It's completely paid for, drink package, spa treatment, excursions. All she had to do was pack her stuff and bring herself and enjoy a relaxing vacation.
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  • My mom has never been on a vacation, we're not rich and she's always stressed about kids dogs work etc. I just wanted to give her something special. Well, the day AFTER Mother's Day she books a cruise for the whole family for ONE MONTH after I was
  • supposed to bring her on this "relaxing" vacation. Well now it's not even relaxing for me because she's texting me and calling me everyday asking 18474823 questions about cruises and what I think about this that and the
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  • third (I havent been on a cruise as an adult so I don't know too much). I just wanted this to be the best relaxing stress free care free vacation and she went and ruined it because now our whole vacation she's just
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  • going to be stressed out about the one we have coming up 4 weeks after the one I booked. Well yesterday I got frustrated with her because after asking me a bunch of questions she says "I'm so glad you had me look into cruises because they have
  • so many options and ships and different things. And what if I book a cruise for *a month before the cruise we're supposed to go on*" so I just blew up and said I wanted to be the one to bring her on her first cruise and it seems like the gift
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  • wasn't really a gift to her considering she's already. trying to plan a vacation before and after it with her own money. It takes the whole "stress free" out of it for both of us because now she's treating me like a travel agent and I don't even
  • know if I can get the other cruise dates approved off by my job she has barely said anything about our cruise that we're supposed to go on THATS COMPLETELY PAID FOR BY ME. I just wanted her to relax a little and enjoy a nice mother daughter vacation but I feel like that's ruined.
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  • Edit: this is something that took me over a year to plan and execute. And yes it's a gift from me to my mother. I am starting to realize some people are right and she is happy. However, yes the situation is a bit stressful for
  • me as I do not have PTO to take 7 days off of work every 4 weeks. I'm not saying my mom can't plan her own vacations and I'm glad she is. I just felt as though with the amount of thought and effort put into
  • this gift it wasn't really appreciated as much as I would've liked and I realize that is a selfish way to feel. On more edit: I said we're not rich. I never said we were dirt poor. I always
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  • knew my mom could afford a vacation. I'm not trying to be my mom's "savior" or "hero". Last edit: you people sure know how to make assumptions off of one paragraph lol! One thing I
  • am confused and amused by is how I'm being told to be grateful that my mom is booking her own vacations but I don't have the right to want to feel appreciated for gifting her one, but I need to
  • appreciate the family one she booked! Also I'm not sorry to anybody for having big feelings about this considering the amount of time effort planning and money that went into this gift. I have had my
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  • realizations from some comments but man other commenters are crazy and acting like they know me inside and out and I'm just an ungrateful brat who wants my mom to kiss my feet, all because I gifted her a cruise ticket? anyway thanks for coming to my ted talk, I'm turning off
  • agirlandthesea It's less about overshadowing and more that you've actually sparked her interest in something she didn't know much about and now wants to explore on her own. That's a good thing! Let her enjoy it and decide how she wants to
  • spend her own money on experiences with her family if she chooses that autonomy - is kind of the real gift here. Honestly, her wanting to do a cruise herself sounds like a win... the idea of needing to be the "first" to take her doesn't really matter in the bigger picture.
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  • Bubbly_Following7930 Was this a gift for her or for you? Because you say she's doomed the whole vacation for you but she sounds perfectly happy.

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