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AITJ for telling my family that I wasn't comfortable taking my cousins on a trip with me?
Hey, 18 y/o male here. I'm graduating high school this year and decided that I wanted to go and travel during a year break that I'm gonna have before I go to college.
Now I already planned this a long time ago, because when my grandfather d*ed, he left me a large inheritance that he said he wanted me to spend to travel like I always told him I wanted to. Therefore, my parents already knew this and I already told them to different places that I plan to go because a lot of them were going to be recorded, as I wanted to start a channel.Now the fact is that because it's almost summer and the time that I plan to leave, my parents told my other family members where I would be, because they were asking if I would be able to help them during the summer, as I usually do. Now I have family members who are trying to get me to take their children, especially my little cousins that I used to babysit a lot, on the trip with me.
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What started as a once-in-a-lifetime graduation trip quickly turned into a full-blown family guilt campaign. Suddenly, relatives who never showed much interest in his travel plans were treating him less like an excited teenager and more like a free international babysitter with unlimited inheritance money and absolutely no ability to say no.
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Now usually, I would be fine taking them places like the movies or sky zone like I used to all the time, but I already specifically told my parents and them that this was going to be a very special trip for me, and that I was going to be going a lot of places during this time and was only going to be taking a trusted group of friends who could also take care of themselves.
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Now one of my aunts in particular is very upset about this, saying that I'm being an unfair cousin because I'm not taking them with me from the money that 'isn't even mine'. When she said that, I told her that it was specifically put in my grandfather's will that I use this money for the trips and places that I told him I wanted to go when I was younger and talked to him. She said that that was in invalid reason to be selfish and that I was disappointing all of my little cousins.
I also told her that this was going to be trips to different countries and places and I didn't want to take my little cousins, who all are around 5-12, to places that I haven't even been to yet, especially how the world is now. So I wanted to come to the internet to let me know if I'm really being the j*rk here.
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Instead of celebrating his chance to finally see the world, the teen found himself defending why he didn’t want to supervise a group of small children across multiple countries. Most people online thought the answer was pretty obvious, but his aunt clearly disagreed. Naturally, the internet had plenty to say about that.
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dMatusavage
The word NO is a complete sentence.
Block or gray rock the adults.
Pack your bags and take them to a friend’s house.
Get up early a few days later, say so long to your parents or leave a note. Drive to pick up your stuff.
Hit the road and have a great time.
Text your parents your location every night but make sure any location software isn’t activated on your phone.
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Boomer050882
Oh h*ll no!! That is too much responsibility for an 18 year old! Stand your ground. Go with your friends and make your Grandfather proud! I’m a 63 year old Grandma who adores her grandkids but even I wouldn’t feel comfortable traveling internationally with kids that age!
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PinkPaintedSky
NTJ.
Oh no! Your aunt will have to parent her kids over the summer! Poor baby.
This is an adult trip. Not a kids summer vacation.
She is just jealous and wants free childcare.
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philandwesmom
That is INSANE! What parent would send their minor children on a high school graduation gap year trip? I can’t believe this is even real. If they want their children to see the world, THEY can take them. Let the 18 year old enjoy their trip! Not a free child care opportunity.
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Leading-Way-2979
That is a very r*de expectation to put on you. You are basically an adult. If you take little kids with you, you will be held responsible for any medical problems that could arise. Kids get hurt, and that will ruin your trip. I would say you are sorry but you can’t be responsible for their kids. It takes a lot of nerve to push that on you.
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KitchenCauliflower25
NTJ. Auntie is totally at fault for even telling her kids about your trip and should not have played it up to them. Auntie is insane for even thinking about sending her kids off to another county with a bunch of grad guys. It’s the perfect time for you to draw the line with your family so they start getting used to the idea that you will no longer be the free babysitter. You are going to be going off to college soon and can’t keep babysitting for them. If they need a babysitter, then the grands can do it or they get daycare, or gasp, just take care of their own kids themselves. The fam needs to get over themselves and take care of their own business and stay out of yours.
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1RainbowUnicorn
NTA. Do not do it! Those kids are not your responsibility, and if something happened while traveling, you wouldn't even be able to get them medical care because you are not a legal guardian. I really can't even believe this is real, it is so ridiculous to ask of an 18 yr old.
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The teen made it clear that this trip was something deeply personal to him and not a family vacation package for younger cousins. While his aunt kept insisting he was being selfish, he stood firm on only traveling with friends capable of handling themselves, leaving the internet overwhelmingly on his side. Would you have handled the situation any differently?
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