29-year-old considers breaking up with girlfriend over her unsettling new tattoo: 'It is killing the mood for lack of a better term'

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Am I in the wrong for finding my partner less attractive after a new tattoo
So just to preface this my (m29) partner (f25) have been together about a year and a half and she is already pretty much head to toe in tattoos, most of which I love or are indifferent towards and never tell her she cant have tattoos, its her body.
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That's the situation this man found himself in when his girlfriend got a new tattoo. It's one thing to accept someone as they are, and it's another thing when that person constantly changes. They used to be one way, and now they're another. This is going to happen over the course of a relationship. People change, and change can be difficult to swallow. But what about a huge physical change like a tattoo? Do you have a right to be mad about that, or do you have to take it in stride, knowing that you'd want them to accept you if you changed?
But she's recently got a stomach peice, a huge detailed spider covered in hair and with that look like warts? Boils? Over its body spanning from her underbust to waistline, I knew she wanted a spider peice but didnt actually see the design or size until after it was done.

Now I am by no means scared of spiders, I quite like them but seeing that front and centre when were being intimate is killing the mood for lack of a better term. So AITAH for not having the same level of attraction/ intimacy with her following this?
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A huge spider is the last thing you'd want to see in your home, let alone on your partner. Of course, it's not a real spider, which should eliminate the ick. But does it? You wouldn't hang a piece of art in your home that you found distasteful, so why should you suffer through it on someone else? But at the same time, you can't control what other people do with their bodies, nor should you try to. That's why this man was in such a tough situation with his girlfriend. Let us know what you think about this story in the comments.
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Update since its kinda popping off in here: So to clear things up i still find her attractive and obviously dont want to end up cutting things off. Its just the detail in the peice that is giving my the heebie jeebies, going off the advice of some of the comments I am going to sit down and talk to her later about it, gently. I respect that she can do what she wants with her body but also put across how it affects me.
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