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Parents want my graduation money but I had plans for it
My godmother gave me a big graduation gift and i was honestly really grateful because i was planning to save or invest it for my future. it felt like a rare chance to actually do something smart with money for once, then my cousin mentioned it to my parents and now they’re asking me to share it to help with bills and some debt.
i get that things aren’t easy for them, so part of me feels guilty even thinking about saying no. But at the same time i really wanted to use this for myself and not lose it right away. now i feel stuck between helping them and sticking to what i planned. If you were in my shoes, what would you do in this situation?
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What started as a thoughtful gift quickly turned into a difficult decision. Instead of focusing on future plans, the graduate now has to weigh family expectations against personal goals, setting the stage for a situation that is less about money and more about boundaries, guilt, and long term priorities.
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UPDATE: Hi everyone, I just wanted to post an update and say thank you to all of you who took the time to comment. I’ve read through a lot of your responses, and I really appreciate the concern and different perspectives you shared. It honestly helped me think more seriously about the decision I’m facing.
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After giving it a lot of thought, I’ve decided that I want to use my graduation money to invest in my future. I believe this is the most responsible choice I can make right now, not just for myself but also for my family in the long run.
I’m planning to talk to my parents and explain that this is the way I can help them too, by building something stable so I won’t become a financial burden later on. I still want to support them in ways that I can, but I also feel that setting myself up properly now is important.
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After sharing an update, the graduate made their decision clear, choosing to invest the money in their future while still wanting to support their family in other ways. That choice sparked a wave of reactions, with commenters offering advice, sharing similar experiences, and debating what fairness really looks like in situations like this.
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focusonyourphoto
That money is a gift to you and your accomplishments.
You should not have to share it. Being in debt is their burden to carry, not yours.
It's noce if you want to help out but it should not be a necessity.
Keep the money, invest it in your own future and don't feel guilty about it.
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AcaiSnob
My mom STAYED with her hands in my pockets for most of my adult life. It set me back tremendously. I could never get ahead.
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Grilled_Cheese10
Normal parents do not expect a share of a gift that is given to their child. If you give it to them, they are going to keep asking for more and more, every time you have any money. You will spend the rest of your life supporting them and be unable to get ahead yourself or do any of the things you want to do.
While I understand that people hit hard times that are not always their own fault, I'm guessing that the kind of parents that assume that anything that belongs to their child is theirs by proxy are maybe not the best decision-makers. It will not stop.
You'll need to get a separate account at a different financial institution than your parents. Never tell them how much money you have.
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Bearsguy2020
Don’t give them your money. She gave it to you for a reason - so you can use it. If she wanted to pay their bills she could.
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Cool_Grand_5020
As a parent who also has bills and debt, I would never expect my child to give me their graduation gift to help me pay for it.
That's your money. If your Godmother wanted them to have that money, she would've given them the money.
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