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Woman breaks up with graphic designer because they use AI for work, sparking up an ethical argument: 'It's cheating!'

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    Woman sitting in an office explaining a graphic design to a coworker.
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    I am female, 26, and my (ex)girlfriend is female, 24. I'll call her "May" for the story.
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    We were together for about 2 years, and taking about living together soon, so it was a serious relationship.
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    Both me and May work as graphic designers. So a career HIGHLY threatened by Al. I am personally very very against the use of it, and May has always known this.
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    Two casually dressed women sit on the floor and look at a computer.
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    She primarily works in website design, and her services are very in depth and pay well;
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    she lays out the entire website, writes most of the "attention grabbing" type text on her own, and makes all
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    Woman wearing a grey sweatshirt, sitting down in a table while writing on paper and working with her computer.
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    the graphics you see anywhere herself. Or at least she did. The reason her clients pay such a high price, and she only needs to do a few projects a year, is
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    because everything is hand done, personal, unique to her style and it takes a lot of time/skill.
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    So in my opinion the use of Al is not only personally insulting, but comparable to some form of fraud. She's lying to her clients.
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    May always shows me the websites she's making as she goes along to ask for input.
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    Woman sitting on her work desk designing something with a tech bar and a pencil.
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    She didn't tell me she began using Al, and hid it from me and absolutely everyone who knows her. But I
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    noticed some parts of her most recent project just looked "different."
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    The graphics didnt all flow together as well and didn't fit her usual style. Some of the text
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    very much read like a bot writes. She was also seemingly going in hyper speed. She usually could spend a week on the opening
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    page alone, but had this one done in a day. So I got suspicious.
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    I asked her outright if she had used Al, and she lied telling me no she didnt. But I know when shes lying. So
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    I'm not happy to admit, but I went in her work computer one day while I was sleeping over at her house, and found a ton of chat history
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    Woman is sitting in a desk at night while looking at a program in a computer.
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    with a bot asking for text blocks/how to word key phrases, and an Al program installed that made graphics.
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    I confronted her the next day. And then she spilled everything, saying she didnt want to tell me cause she knows how I feel, but
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    she doesn't see a problem with using it and thinks we need to "use the tools we have."
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    Al isnt a tool. It's cheating. I asked her if she at least had made the client aware and adjusted her price, which she replied "they don't need to know my process."
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    A screen of an artificial Intelligence history tab.
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    We argued about it over the course of a couple days. I gave her an opportunity to at least make her client aware, which would
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    make it a lot less bad to me and maybe I could forgive. But overall the being lied to, the lying to the clients, and especially the use of Al itself
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    Two women sitting down on a bed crying and comforting each other.
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    when its something I'm personally very against... I couldn't see myself keeping the relationship. So yesterday I broke up with her.
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    She thinks its an overreaction and not a good reason to leave someone. She is honestly very hurt.
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    And I still care about her as a person. But I just don't agree with what shes doing anymore. AIO?
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    huckslash NOR - if she's willing to endanger her own career/damage her own credibility, what would she do if yours was at stake?
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    EmergencyWild I mean IMHO YOR, but what's the use of worrying about it now? You've already had the fight and broke up. You set a line for the standards you want, and that's fine, ultimately you'll have to decide for yourself what your values are and what a 'valid' reason for breaking up is.
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    toefungus06 even if you both didn't have creative jobs threatened by AI, NOR. generative Al usage is a massive deal and to also be lying to clients and you about it? yeah, ew nope.
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    LivSaJo NOR. It speaks to her ethics that she would provide cheaper and less good work out of laziness while keeping her prices high. Ethics are a very good reason to break up. You also don't even need a GOOD reason to break up.
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    CoffeeGoblynn If I'm paying top dollar for a custom website, I expect the person creating it to make everything by hand. Using Al for that is deceptive and scummy. The fact she then lied to you about it tells you all you need to know. I'm sorry about your relationship though, that must be difficult.
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    Superb-Tear6046 Honestly I think it's mainly an issue about values. If being anti-Al is an important value for you, then she was not a match for you anymore and that's okay. It doesn't have to make sense to other people if it does for you. It's highly subjective imho
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    not_now_right_now If you're reacting to her lying to you then you're NOR. If it's because of her use of Al then your values just aren't aligned and this is probably for the best.
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