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Small business owner refuses partner’s demand for 50% ownership, ends relationship after ultimatum: ‘I built this myself’

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    Boyfriend and girlfriend sitting down fighting
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    I run a small business. I started it before we met, built it from nothing over about five years, and it finally started doing well maybe two years into our relationship. My
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    partner watched that whole process. They know what it took.
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    A few months ago they started bringing up the idea of being formally brought in. Not as an employee. As a co-owner. Equal split.
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    I said I was open to talking about it if they were going to take on real operational responsibility. They
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    said they already contribute by supporting me emotionally and being flexible around my schedule. I said that wasnt the same thing.
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    Girlfriend and boyfriend having a serious conversation in a restaurant.
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    It kept coming up. Each time I thought we resolved it and each time it came back bigger.
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    Last week they sat me down and said they had thought about it
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    and their final position was a fifty fifty ownership stake or they didnt see a future for us. They said if I
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    wasnt willing to build something together then I was treating them like a guest in my own life.
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    I asked if they were sure that was the position. They said yes.
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    Boyfriend and girlfriend sitting down on a couch discussing.
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    I said okay and told them I needed them to start looking for somewhere else to go.
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    They were shocked. Genuinely did not expect me to take them at their word.
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    They said they didnt mean it like that, they were just trying to make me understand how serious they were.
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    Regretful man sits on the side of a bed sending phone messages.
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    I said I did understand and that was why I was responding seriously.
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    They have been at their sisters place for four days. I have
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    gotten three long messages about how I threw away something real over a business disagreement.
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    Woman reading messages from her home in her house.
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    I dont see it that way. I see it as they told me exactly what they needed and I told them exactly where I stood and neither of those things changed.
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    Few_N... Lol it's not a "business disagreement" when they were never part of the business. NTJ
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    swtxcou... Absolutely not.
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    Primary... So they just wanted half of what they watched you build? Bullet dodged. Be sure to change the locks now and then have witnesses to film when they collect all their stuff.
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    Lightne... They were already out the door when they said that. Well done for standing up to their pressure and buying tactics.
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    A... an ultimatum is only an ultimatum if you mean it. they found that out the hard way
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    Electron... Lol they FAFO. Sounds like you just dodged a gold digging bullet. Buh-bye!
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    Organic Client 5679 This is the definition of FAFO. You are not a j in any way. That's some entitled thinking on their part. 50% for "supporting you emotionally" and "working around your schedule"? If they had agreed to take on some operational responsibility, I still wouldn't do a 50/50 split considering you started and nurtured the business on your own. You did the right thing.
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    outlander779 NTJ. You were given a line in the sand. You didn't back anyone into a corner, that was done to you. Your response is perfectly reasonable. If they don't like the outcome, they shouldn't have forced the question.

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