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25-year-old groom-to-be uninvites sister from his wedding after she takes over his engagement party with pregnancy announcement: ‘I’m done being second in my own life’

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  • A group of people smile and clap as someone opens a gift during a joyful gathering.
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  • My engagement party was last saturday. my fiance (26F) and i (25M) spent months saving up for a nice backyard thing with catering and a DJ.
  • we invited about 50 people including my older sister "Jess" (29F). everything was going great, people were toasting us, we were happy.
  • then Jess grabbed a microphone and said she had a surprise announcement. i thought she was going to say something nice about us.
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  • nope. she said "i'm pregnant with baby number two!" everyone clapped and crowded around her. I was stunned.
  • my fiance looked like she wanted to cry. Jess knew we had asked everyone to keep the focus on us.
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  • we even put it on the invites: "please no other announcements." after the party, i texted her saying that was messed up.
  • she said she was just excited and didn't think it was a big deal. i told her she's no longer invited to the wedding.
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  • she freaked out and called me selfish. my mom is taking her side, saying "family supports family" and that i'm overreacting.
  • But here's the thing, this isn't the first time Jess has done something like this. she announced her first pregnancy at my college graduation dinner.
  • she made my birthday party last year all about her new car. i'm tired of being secondary in my own life.
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  • my fiance supports me but some of my aunts think i'm being too harsh. u're supposed to feel special at ur own engagement party, right?
  • Guests raise glasses for a toast at a wedding celebration.
  • Turbulent Pin_8310 Or op can announce the gender and the name of her unborn on her wedding! Payback! (Op, just make up a tragedeigh and random gender!)
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  • Sleepwalker0304 Money on the mother being the one who brings her because she feels you're breaking up the family. This situation needs clear boundaries and if the mother does what I suspect, she needs to be thrown out with the sister.
  • RJack151 NTJ. Supporting family is one thing, stealing someone's event is another. Tell everyone that your wedding is about you and not someone that is constantly stealing your moments.
  • beejaye11 NTJ-Your sister has proven she thinks everything is all about her, and she is the only one who matters. You do not need to put up with her unwanted interruptions at your wedding. Stand your ground. It's time your narcissistic sister gets put in her place, and everyone else who is saying you are overreacting can stay home with her since they are clearly choosing her over you, and tell them all that this conversation is not open to discussion and if they can't respect your decision, that
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  • Garden_Lady2 Tell your family that all of your celebrations have been hijacked by your sister in the past and you want to be sure this one day, your wedding, remains your day! Your sister knows she's stealing the limelight and revels in it. All those announcements she made could have been done at other times, not during a celebration for you. I bet she's overshadowed you all your lives. You deserve your wedding day to be all about YOU and any family members who don't agree don't need to come. Yo
  • tntdy You asked her not to she did it anyway. You are making the reasonable decision. She can't be trusted to not sabotage your wedding or more likely reception. She is just wired that way. I would tell everyone "I asked her not to she did it anyway, I sorry about this but I can't risk my wedding and my finances day. I just can't trust her which is so sad." If they persist say yeah... in a sad voice" I feel really bad but this is my only choice. Then say o just don't think she can help herself s
  • commanderof4 NTJ - your sister has shown who she is. What's she going to do next announce its twins at your fiancée's bridal shower or at your wedding?
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  • thingonething Be sure to have security at your wedding to your sister out when she shows up.
  • Zestyclose-Height-36 ntj, your sister is tj and should not be allowed at the wedding and reception. get security and make sure no one lets her in. tell your mom she can stay home with her favorite child if she wants to choose that path.
  • traciw67 Ntj. But she WILL show up. You need a bouncer/doorman at your wedding.

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