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29-year-old woman asks man to cover her $900 rent on their third date: 'I barely know her last name'

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  • A man and a woman sit at a dinner table together on a date
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  • Girl (29, f) I am seeing asked me (32, m) to pay her rent on our third date. Is this a major red flag?

    I have been talking to this girl for about three weeks now. We met on Hinge and our first two dates were actually great. We had a lot in common and the chemistry felt real. She is 29 and works in freelance design so i knew her income might be a bit inconsistent but she always seemed to have her life together. Tonight was our third date and we went out for some drinks and appetizers at a nice spot downtown.
  • Halfway through the night the vibe completely shifted. She got really quiet and then told me she was having some "temporary financial struggles" because a big client flaked on her. I felt bad and tried to be supportive but then she straight up asked if I could cover her rent for this month which is about £900. She
  • said that since I work in engineering and "look successful" it probably wouldnt be a big deal for me and she promised to pay me back once her next project clears. I was honestly stunned into silence for a second. I barely know her last name and we havent even had the "exclusive" talk yet. I told her that I wasnt
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  • comfortable lending that much money to someone I just met and she got really defensive. She started saying that if I really liked her I would want to help her out of a tough spot instead of being "transactional" about it. She even brought up that her ex used to help her all the time without complaining.
  • The rest of the date was super awkward and I ended up paying for the drinks and leaving early. Am I being too harsh or is it completely insane to ask a guy for rent money on the third date? I really liked her before this happened but now I feel like I was being scouted for my bank account rather than my personality. Has anyone else dealt with this kind of "investment" approach so early on?
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  • Two people hold mugs together on a date
  • Commenters gave some hard truths.

    Tall-Play-7649 dude it's a sham ffs, block her + move on, the chemistry wasnt "real"
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  • RD_in_Berlin Oh my god yes, cut her off immediately. You shouldn't even have to ask.
  • Avtomati1k One red flag is asking for money, second is saying that u look like u wouldnt have a problem with it financially, third is how she behaved after u said no. So, a plethora of red flags?
  • IndicationKey3778 Lmao no green flag. Pay my rent too
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  • LegitimateKnee5537 Paying rent is territory that only comes with getting her pregnant.
  • CappriGirl That's mad. Run, my friend.
  • JaeCrowe I dont need to read a single word past the title to know the answer to this one
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  • MatchboxVader22 No you should not pay for her rent. Cmon man. I'd be moving on from her immediately

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