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    16-year-old celebrates her passing grade with a boy in her class, enrages her 17-year-old boyfriend who gets straight As: 'He's never happy for me.'

    She needs to dump this boyfriend because, clearly, he isn't happy for her when she succeeds. He's too self-centered to realize that other people have different goals from his.

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    • Portrait of a beautiful girl with curly hair standing on stairs in school
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      A high school student smiles after getting a passing grade on a science test for the first time.

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    • Am I the bad guy for celebrating my grade with another guy instead of my boyfriend?

      I (16F) have a boyfriend (17M), he's like super duper smart, school president, advanced classes, all of that.
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    • I, on the other hand, am not the sharpest tool in the shed (and he knows it).
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    • My average is barely passing Anyways I've been studying really hard lately since I have minister exams soon and they're really important for my next school year.
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    • A few weeks ago, I got a 74 on my science test for the first time ever!
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    • I have always gotten around 65 on my science tests so I was super hyped. I went to go find my boyfriend and tell him.
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    • He congratulated me but didn't seem as excited. I asked him why he's not hyped and he said that even tho he's happy for me, I shouldn't be celebrating a 70.
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      Straight-A boyfriend looks annoyed after learning that his girlfriend was excited about earning a passing grade.

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    • I was a bit sad but I still understood, he gets 90s all the time so a 70 isn't that good for him.
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    • Understanding another person's cognitive and emotional state is a basic tenet of empathy. You might not want to live in an apartment with four roommates, but you'd be thrilled for a friend who has experienced homelessness if they moved into such a living situation! You'd be especially happy if they expressed their own happiness about this development with you. If you can't be happy about something that wouldn't necessarily make you happy for somebody else, then you need to at least fake it till you make it! It's very difficult to be in a relationship with someone who cannot be happy for you; it's going to be a long road ahead if you choose to proceed with such a partner.

    • Fast forward a few weeks, I have another science exam and I get a 78 (so close to 80!), I went to go find my boyfriend again and tell him, I hoped he would be more enthusiastic since it's closer to 80 but he had the same reaction.
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    • I was disappointed and walked away. In my next class, one of my classmates (who is also in my science class) said he saw my grade and congratulated me on it (unfortunately it's pretty known that I get low grades).
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      A kind boy congratulates his classmate on her improving grades, unlike her boyfriend.

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    • Anyways, the guy was pretty happy and he was hyping me up. I don't really talk to that guy but it felt good to have someone be happy for me.
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    • I haven't just been studying more in science but in history and math too since my minister exams are on those 3 subjects, math is still a work in progress, but I recently got an 81 on my history exam!
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    • That's like a giant improvement for me and I was super hyped so again, went to go find my boyfriend thinking maybe this time he'd be happy since it was an 80.
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    • ...he was not. He said congrats again but said he wouldn't celebrate my grade until I got a 95 or more.
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    • I was once again disappointed but whatever, 95 is his standard. But then the other guy found me after school and congratulated me, again, super excited and happy for me, gave me a high five and everything.
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    • I felt good about myself Few weeks later I get 86(!!!) on another history exam but instead of going to my boyfriend, I went to the other guy.
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    • I don't even know why, I guess I was just so excited and I wanted someone to be excited with me.
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    • I went up to him and he was super hyped with me, we were in the hallways and my boyfriend saw us.
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    • After school my boyfriend came to me and asked me what was that abt, I told him and he got mad I went to another guy to celebrate my grade.
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    • I tried defending myself by saying he's never happy for me. We got into an argument and we haven't talked in like a week.
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    • I miss him but I don't know what to do. I don't think I'm in the wrong but I have no one to ask (my fami doesn't know abt my relationship and my friends would def be biased).
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    • This guy is clearly too jealous to maintain a healthy relationship with his girlfriend. He doesn't provide her with the emotional support she asks for, and when she gets it elsewhere, he freaks out! If he's willing to ignore his girlfriend over something as minor as her talking with her male classmate, then maybe he didn't want to be with her that much in the first place. Behavior is a language, and his behavior demonstrates that he doesn't think that his girlfriend's hard work is worth celebrating. She should ditch this guy and focus on her relationships with the people who actually want to see her succeed. 

    • Sea_Chair_945 NTA, your bf is an arrogant AH. You're better off being with someone that will be there to celebrate your small wins and be proud of you no matter the achievement. It's better to learn this now while you're young.
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    • DayConscious5554 Original Poster's Reply thank you for the feedback! should I try talking to my boyfriend about it?
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    • Quarkiness former high school teacher here. You celebrate your wins. If you have improved, I'm super happy for you. NTA. I'm super hyped for you. You are putting in the hard work and it's showing. Sometimes the grades don't show your hard work but I want to celebrate you for putting in the effort.
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    • CowtheCatt NTA. You deserve to celebrate your achievements. For you this is a big deal. And if he is so smart why doesn't he tutor you? Seems logical to me. Good luck on you exams! Hope you get a 90 next time!
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    • Ariask NTA I say this as a high school teacher. Your boyfriend is a dumba There's different kinds of intelligence. Your boyfriend might have the skills to study and do well at school but he lacks social and emotional intelligence. He doesn't even have the ability to comprehend that everything is relative. He knows you struggle. He knows you've gotten lower grades in the past. But he isn't smart enough to understand that it's harder for you than it is for him to get good grades. He doesn't unders
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    • mrllover NTA, assuming it's not out of malice, your boyfriend wants you to be better. I can understand that, but some people just aren't good at school. He should still congratulate you for the little things that YOU are proud of. Honestly, break up with him over this petty jealous bulls, you don't need this stress in your teen years.
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    • Speedracer_17 NTA- your 'boyfriend' should be celebrating your win, not your win vs his personal standard. TBH, the 'friend' is the better person. If the BF can't support you, celebrate your score or build you up, then you're better off without him...
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    • Juergenater Face the truth. Your boyfriend will ditch you the moment he goes to a fancy college. No way he stays with you. Get to know that buddy of you and maybe study together and see from there.
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    • PennsylvaniaDutchess Your bf is unsupportive, why are you even with him? Dump his a and free up your time to study.
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    • heyitskio He's belitting your efforts and brushing off your achievements. Toxic af, nta and break up with him
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