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    28-year-old refuses to let roommate use $400 coffee maker after she broke the last one: 'Roommate B is now saying I’m being petty and holding a grudge over a kitchen appliance'

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    JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
    Mar 8, 2026 10:00 PM EDT

    If someone broke something of yours, would you trust them with it again? Could you be blamed if you didn't? Mistakes happen, but that doesn't mean you have to let someone make a fool of you twice. You know what they say about that…

    It's important that the people around you respect your belongings. You want people in your life whom you can trust. Especially the people you live with. If you don't feel comfortable leaving them alone with your stuff, then what's the point? You don't want to live your life on guard for something bad to happen. You want to be able to fully unwind at home, able to enjoy your peace and quiet. If you have a roommate who disturbs you, then you need to evaluate their relationship with you. 

    Of course, stuff happens. Life has a way of taking your best laid plans and tossing them right out the window. Accidents happen, mistakes happen, and we're not bad people because of that. It's the way that we react to them that matters. If you're not willing to treat it seriously and own up to your failures, then you have some serious introspection to do. You would hate to lose your friendship with someone over something as trivial as a broken coffee maker. But if you mess something up, it's on you to fix. It's not on anyone else. And if you think it's someone else's responsibility, then you need to grow up. 

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    • A woman makes coffee at home pouring a kettle into a chemex
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    • That's what happened in this story, where a roommate misused their roommate's expensive coffee maker. If you're a coffee lover, you know those machines can be both expensive and finicky. You shouldn't mess with them too much lest you break something and be unable to make your coveted cup of joe in the morning. But this roommate was testing fate when she decided to fire it up. And instead of owning up to her mistake, she tried to brush it under the rug. Scroll on to read what happened in the story and decide what you think about it. 

    • Am I in the wrong for refusing to let my roommate use my expensive coffee maker after he broke my last one?

      I (28F) live with two roommates (both 27F). We've been in this apartment for about 18 months. I bought a $400 Breville espresso machine last year because I'm a coffee nerd and it's one of my few nice things.
      via u/Silly-Function-430
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    • Two months ago, roommate A used it without asking, didn't clean it properly, and it broke (scale buildup + shee ran it dry). Shee said "sorry girl, I'll replace it" but never did. She just kept using the cheap drip machine instead.
      via u/Silly-Function-430
    • Last week she asked to use my new one again (same model). I said no, because she still hasn't replaced the last one she broke and I don't trust her with it. She got ped, called me selfish and said "it's just a coffee maker, we're friends." Roommate B is now saying I'm being petty and holding a grudge over "a kitchen appliance."
      via u/Silly-Function-430
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    • I told them both I'm not sharing expensive stuff with people who don't respect it. AITA for refusing?
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    • Commenters gave their thoughts on this story.

      A_Classy_Ghost NTA, tell them you're not holding a grudge over an appliance, you're holding a grudge over the 400 dollars she owes you and apparently has no plan to pay back. It would, indeed, not be that big a deal if she had broken a 30 dollar coffee maker but this isn't what happened here.
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    • Thundernutz79 NTA - "I told them both I'm not sharing expensive stuff with people who don't respect it." This is all that needs to be said.
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    • SDstartingOut NTA; Petty would be taking them to small claims court over the original $400. Keeping the peace is sucking up the $400 loss and simply not letting her use the new one.
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    • Remarkable_Inch... NTA. It's not over a kitchen appliance, it's disrespect and a debt she hasn't repaid.
      via u/Remarkable_Inchworm
    • I_might_be_weasel NTA. A friend would have paid for it. And this isn't petty in the slightest. It's completely practical. She will break your things and leave you with the bill. It is simple self interest to keep her away from it.
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    • ThenSociety734 NTA in general, but just a heads up: you can't keep personal items in public spaces - especially bulky ones like appliances in rooms where space is at a premium like kitchens. You'll have to keep it in your room.
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    • mjpm617 At least try to make your 76 story believable . Scale &$!#% buildup after 1 use? Did YOU ever clean it yourself? Ran it dry and it broke. Seriously? You're not 28; you're 12.
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    • tonyis I guess NTA based on the way you tell it. However, she definitely didn't break it by using it one time. If you're blaming her for not descaling it after one use, Y T A. Also, the versions I've used don't even let you run it dry.
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    • Still, it's fine if you don't want to share, but you have to accept that your relationship is going to suffer. As a final note, it would be AH behavior if you keep this rather large appliance on the shared counter full time if no one else is allowed to use it.
      via u/tonyis
    • Sweaty-Seat-8878 NTA...we are friends, and friends keep their word, you said you would pay me back for breaking the last one. I'll make you a cup of coffee but no you can't use it
      via u/Sweaty-Seat-8878
    • MissR_R NTA but will she have access to it 24/7? Or is it locked up somewhere?
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    • NPC-Name NTA she acts as entitled as if she was your sister. Good for you putting down a boundary.
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    • SoyEseVato NTA but stupid for letting anyone use anything expensive. There are certain things (coffee pot, knives, etc) no one touches. Ever.
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    • goddessofspite NTA. Fool me once and all that. She has proven she can't be trusted that's on her. If you did it again that would be on you.
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    • Parasamgate NTA. You would be foolish and a doormat to let her use your machine again. If she made it right by going out and getting you a coffee maker say within a week that would be one thing but not only did she break your sh, she lied to your face. She's unreliable and selfish.
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    • If roommate B thinks you're being petty then here's what she needs to do: she needs to go to the ban, take out $400 and leave it on her dresser. I'm not saying you should steal it but I am saying when it ends up missing, she should expect you to call her petty for asking about it. Or she could give you the $400 herself.
      via u/Parasamgate
    • The absolute gall and arrogance to suggest you should eat a $400 expense and then put yourself in the position to lose double. TL;DR they gotta pay to play
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    • Creamy_Breve NTA I feel like regardless of whether she broke it or not, those machines are expensive and break easily. I've gone through a couple of them over the years and don't let others use it. If they want a coffee I'll make it but nobody else touches my expensive sh. That just
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    • saves me from being angry about it not being properly cleaned or taken care of and it saves them from my wrath if something they did causes it to break. I don't let others use my things. Ever!
      via u/Creamy_Breve
    • If she's angry at you, then tell her that it's best she doesn't use your things at all if that's how she feels when she wrecks your stuff.
      via u/Creamy_Breve

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