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Woman demands sister give her $600 for Hawaii vacation as repayment for lettig her stay rent-free for 3 months 5 years ago, she refuses: ‘[That] favor was offered, not a loan’

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  • Confident young woman with hair in a bun and hoop earrings standing outdoors with arms crossed in front of a modern glass building.
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  • AITJ for refusing to share my work bonus with my sister who says I "owe" her??

    I just got a $1500 bonus at work for exceeding my sales goals. I worked really hard for it - overtime, weekends, everything.
  • My sister heard about it and called asking for $600. She says I "owe" her because she let me live with her rent- free for 3 months five years ago when I was between jobs.
  • I said that was a favor you offered, not a loan. She said "Yeah well now I need money and you have it!" She's not in any emergency.
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  • She wants the money for a vacation to Hawaii. I said absolutely not. She's calculated that market-rate rent for those 3 months would've been about $900 so I actually owe her MORE than she's asking for!
  • I said you offered to let me stay for free, I didn't force you! She said "That's what family does and now. you should return the favor!" She's telling our whole family that I'm selfish and ungrateful.
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  • Young woman with her hair in a bun and hoop earrings leaning against a black pillar on a modern rooftop terrace, looking directly at the camera.
  • Our mom called saying I should "remember who helped me when I needed it." But she's not in need!
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  • She wants vacation money! That's completely different! She sent me a Venmo request for $600 titled "Rent repayment - 2018." I declined it and she sent it again with the note "Don't be cheap." Am I wrong for not paying her back for something she offered freely 5 years ago??
  • TL;DR: Sister let me stay with her rent-free 5 years ago, now wants $600 from my work bonus as "repayment," she wants it for vacation not emergency, I refused, she says I'm ungrateful.
  • polarkats NTA- stop telling them how much money you have/earned. Don't give her a dime.
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  • Equivalent-Wash2108 Original Poster's Reply Yea lesson learned.. I didn't think sharing good news would turn into a bill from 5 yrs ago.. that's absurd. I will definitely keep my money stuff private from now on.
  • DanaMarie75038 NTA. Don't tell people your bonuses or salary. Someone will always feel entitled to it. Your sister is greedy.
  • Equivalent-Wash2108 Original Poster's Reply Absolutely agreed. The entitlement is evident.. I mean if it were for emergency, I wouldn't mind and I would gladly help. But for vacation? Nah
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  • Lmamiru "I already spent it." NTJ
  • Equivalent-Wash2108 Original Poster's Reply Yea I would have just be straightforward and told her this.. the constant venmo requests are ridiculous
  • PlumpPoutt This. That fact that she's calculating market rate for a favor from 2018 is unhinged. That wasn't a helping hand, it was apparently a long-term investment she's now trying to cash out on. If OP pay her now, she'll just come back for the other $300 next time she wants a flight upgrade.
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  • Apprehensive War9612 Tell her if she ever finds herself between jobs and needs a place to stay then you are happy to return the favor because you are sisters but being kind to you five years ago, does not create a debt and does not entitled her to share in your good fortune in perpetuity. NTj
  • Gingi1018 Nope if you didn't get the bonus, she wouldn't have asked anyway, keep your money
  • Dramatic_Discipline2 Sometimes it is best not to share financial stuff
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  • Routine_Test_4175 Good answer.
  • luvgia22 NTA, asking for money you owe her for a vacation is wild. Shes trying to retroactively charge you rent for kindness lol.
  • yc3275 Stop discussing money with anyone!!

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