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Grandma draws the ire of "unschooling" daughter-in-law after giving her iPad-kid 4th-grade granddaughter a real book to read instead of her iPad: 'She actually needs to practice reading not listening'

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    A grandmother in a purple sweater smiles while looking at a tablet with her granddaughter.
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    AITA for telling my DIL that I won't use the tablet and she needs to actually make her kid read? My granddaughter is in 4th grade and she struggles in reading. She doesn't have a learning dis lity, it is just a subject that she struggles in. Recently, my daughter-in-law had to go back to work (she was a SAHM) because of financial reasons. She started about two weeks ago and due to this I now babysit after school for an hour or two before they come and pick her up.
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    A young girl and her grandmother look at a tablet together on the sofa
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    I have been having her do her homework in that time. It has become very obvious she is a very poor reader (I would say she is behind a grade in the subject). She asks me all the time to read a question for her, and I have started sitting down with her having her read out loud (which she hates). She doesn't know how to sound stuff out if that makes sense and is extremely slow at it. If the word is longer than like 4 letters she doesn't really get it. Example: we had to sound out the word broken.
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    She said they have been working on it and will bring her tablet that has some stories she is reading and to just have her read for a bit after homework is done. This is the issue, DIL gave me the tablet and headphones and told me where the app was. We finished the homework and I told her to read her story. The app reads it out loud....
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    Grandkid doesn't even follow along....she just kinda stares and sit there. So I took the tablet and gave her a children's book and made her read it. I would give her a min or two and then have her tell me what happened on that page. And have her show me any words she doesn't get and have her sound them out.
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    When my DIL came back, I informed her what happened and handed back the tablet. She was upset that I am not using the tablet and read along are helpful. I told her her daughter is not reading along, and she actually needs to practice reading not listening. She got mad at this and asked it was questions her parenting and I said no but it doenst change the fact she needs to actually practice reading.
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    She has been p ed since and my son called telling me to use the tablet. I also said no and she will be reading physical books and if he has a problem with that then he can get another babysitter. They are p ed at me but are still having me babysit. My husband thinks they are being idiots but I could have been nicer about this.
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a hle: 1. AITA for making my granddaughter actually read and refusing to use the tablet that her mom gave me becuase it literally reads out loud. 2. I may be an a for not using the tablet and could have been nicer about it
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    Affectionate-Use6412 Teacher here. NTA. They've ignored an obvious and major issue all the way to 4th grade simply because technology will read to you. You are right, she needs real books, actual read aloud practice, and comprehension review. Great job standing up for your granddaughter. Just because the work is hard doesn't mean it isn't valuable.
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    terpischor... NTA Download hooked on phonics and get that girls some real phonics education. Edit bc people have shared other resources Teach Your monster to Read Reading.com UFLI ABCYa ABC mouse Leapfrog ✩ 5.1K Reply Shar
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    CapnRaye NTA This is why kids are illiterate these days. You are doing everyone a major favor here.
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    Shike Going with NTA. We're having severe issues with literacy in the country, taking phonics out of classrooms and overly assistive studies have given worse results. Literacy is the first key to success in a professional career, and it's very easy to get left behind. This doesn't even cover the bu ying from being forced to read aloud and not being able to do so.
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    crazy_river_otter Honestly I feel a lot of people might subscribe to the "they're the parents so they get to make that call not you" bulls, but NTA. They are actively harming their kid if they're not properly supporting her learning how to read. She should be reading chapter books independently by now, not having computers read to her like she's a baby.
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    Ok_Jury_8047 NTA. children have been reading real books for over a century, they can keep doing it.
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    AITA for telling my DIL that I won't use the tablet and she needs to actually make her kid read? My granddaughter is in 4th grade and she struggles in reading. She doesn't have a learning dis lity, it is just a subject that she struggles in. Recently, my daughter-in-law had to go back to work (she was a SAHM) because of financial reasons. She started about two weeks ago and due to this I now babysit after school for an hour or two before they come and pick her up.
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    I have been having her do her homework in that time. It has become very obvious she is a very poor reader (I would say she is behind a grade in the subject). She asks me all the time to read a question for her, and I have started sitting down with her having her read out loud (which she hates). She doesn't know how to sound stuff out if that makes sense and is extremely slow at it. If the word is longer than like 4 letters she doesn't really get it. Example: we had to sound out the word broken.
  • Advertisement
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    She said they have been working on it and will bring her tablet that has some stories she is reading and to just have her read for a bit after homework is done. This is the issue, DIL gave me the tablet and headphones and told me where the app was. We finished the homework and I told her to read her story. The app reads it out loud....
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    Grandkid doesn't even follow along....she just kinda stares and sit there. So I took the tablet and gave her a children's book and made her read it. I would give her a min or two and then have her tell me what happened on that page. And have her show me any words she doesn't get and have her sound them out.
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    When my DIL came back, I informed her what happened and handed back the tablet. She was upset that I am not using the tablet and read along are helpful. I told her her daughter is not reading along, and she actually needs to practice reading not listening. She got mad at this and asked it was questions her parenting and I said no but it doenst change the fact she needs to actually practice reading.
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    She has been p ed since and my son called telling me to use the tablet. I also said no and she will be reading physical books and if he has a problem with that then he can get another babysitter. They are p ed at me but are still having me babysit. My husband thinks they are being idiots but I could have been nicer about this.

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