Girlfriend secretly charges boyfriend's credit card for months, secretly takes out $500 in cash advances: 'I feel like I’m being gaslit about this'

What would you do if you found out your romantic partner was stealing from you?

In a relationship, things are shared. You share time, space, and sometimes money. Even when you're first dating someone, there's a negotiation about money. Dating tends not be free, so someone has to pay for the drinks/food/activity. And you might not come to the table with the same expectations. Maybe one of you thinks that you should always go true Dutch and split things down the middle. Maybe one of you prefers to pay for everything. Either way, you're making some kind of negotiation even when you first meet each other. It only gets more complicated as you go further into a relationship. As you start to intertwine lives, you're bound to intertwine money. This is especially true if you live together. There is no one right way to do it, but you always have to be communicating.

All good relationships are built on trust. You have to trust each other in order to accomplish anything at all. Trust can be earned over time, but it can be lost in an instant. The minute you find out that someone is lying to you, especially about something important like finances. Finances are one of the most common issues that couples argue about. It can be make or break in a relationship, and in this relationship… it looked like it might be "break." After discovering some mysterious charges on his credit card, the man in this story had some questions.

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Nobody wants to assume the worst of their partner, but sometimes you have no choice. You can stick your head in the sand and pretend like whatever your suspicions are isn't happening, but the truth is bound to come out at some point or another. It's best to investigate something in a clear and communicative manner when an issue arises and not let it fester too long. That's what the boyfriend in this story tried to do, but he ended up in a position that he wasn't comfortable with. Read on to see exactly what happened.
Am I overreacting for being upset that my girlfriend secretly used my credit card for months?

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Commenters agreed that this was a huge breach of trust.

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