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Remote employee pretends to quit job after partner claims working from home is a hobby, he immediately panics about paying the bills: ‘You said it wasn't that serious’

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  • Woman Working At Home Using Her Laptop
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  • AIW for pretending I quit my job to prove a point after my partner kept acting like it didnt matter

    I work from home. My hours are kind of unusual because I work for a company in a different time zone so my shift runs from late afternoon until around midnight five days a week.
  • Its been like this for years. Everyone in my life knows this. Its not new information.
  • I handle all of our finances. Budgeting bills debt repayment everything. insurance Its literally what I do for a living so it made sense for me to manage it at home too.
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  • My income covers our rent and all my personal expenses. Were not struggling but if my paycheck disappeared tomorrow things would get tight real fast.
  • My partner makes more than me. And because of that theres always been this unspoken thing where my job is treated as less important.
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  • Like because I work from home in my sweats and hes out at an office his work is real work and mine is just something I do on my laptop while the tv is on.
  • The thing that finally broke me was this dinner situation. He wanted to go out with a couple we hang out with.
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  • Cool I love going out. But they planned it for a weeknight right in the middle of my shift.
  • On my busiest night. The night I have a standing meeting with a major client that I cannot miss.
  • I told him this. Again. For like the hundredth time. Asked if they could move it to the next day when literally all four of them are completely free.
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  • Nobody has anything going on. Moving it one day would cost them nothing. They refused. Just didnt want to.
  • Folded Unpaid Financial Bills on Table
  • No reason. And when I got frustrated about it my partner hit me with something along the lines of its not that serious just skip it.
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  • Like my job is some hobby I can pause whenever its inconvenient for his social plans.
  • That was it for me. The next day I had a light workload. No meetings no deadlines nothing urgent.
  • So I stayed in my pajamas all day and pretended I was just playing games on my computer.
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  • My desk faces a wall so he cant see my screen unless he comes all the way around behind me.
  • Every time he walked in I minimized everything and pulled up a game. When he asked what I was doing I told him I quit.
  • Said since my job apparently isnt important I figured why keep stressing myself over something that doesnt matter.
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  • Might as well just stop. He PANICKED. Immediately started asking about bills and rent and insurance and how could I just do that without talking to him first.
  • And I just kept calmly saying I dont understand why youre upset you said it wasnt that serious.
  • I dont feel great about how I did it but I also dont know what else I was supposed to do when nobody listens to your words.
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  • Sad-Entertainer8553 He didnt care about your job until he realized his rent depended on it. Thats not him finally understanding thats him finally doing the math
  • Icy-Bath-953 Original Poster's Reply honestly yeah the speed at which he went from its not that serious to wait what about the bills told me everything I needed to know about how he actually viewed my contribution this whole time
  • Sea-Ad9057 Why are you paying all the rent if he makes more money
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  • throwaway444441111 Not wrong if you had missed that meeting you may have been fired and he'd be realizing that he in fact does not know everything. You were just doing a little ghost of Christmas future life lesson.
  • fearless 1025 YNW. I hope he changes his tune going forward. I hope he's better in other areas than he is in consideration and respect.
  • buttonandthemonkey Good job. I don't think he actually takes your job seriously now though, he just doesn't want his finances interrupted. This isn't even really about your job. It's that he doesn't respect you enough to find out what you do for work and his refusal to accept what you tell him. And he doesn't respect you enough to move a dinner 1 night so you could be included. This is a much bigger issue than him not understanding your job.
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  • Face2098 I bring in 1/3 of the money for our house and my husband brings in 2/3. Our money goes into one account. My husband has NEVER acted like what I bring in doesn't matter. But that's the difference between a good husband and a lousy boyfriend.

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