21-year-old asks to host birthday party at sister's house, gets offended when she backs out because she invited 40 guests: 'My house can't fit 40 people'

Permission to use someone's property isn't a free pass to do whatever you want.

No matter what kind of relationship you might have with somebody, it is a real privilege if they ever hand over the place they live to you. A home is a sanctuary, and for many people, it takes a lot of trust to be able to share the sanctuary with anyone else. They want to know that it is going to be in good hands, especially if they are not going to be there at the same time as you.

However, it is not uncommon for those who are afforded this privilege to misuse it, causing disagreements further down the line. They have no problem with taking 'make yourself at home' a little too literally. Somebody who does not have a place to stay, or at least not a place where they can do whatever they want, can become a nuisance in their desperation to have things their way for once. It is convenient that they do not have to be the ones to clean up the mess or repair any damage. While it is good to be hospitable, we all have to be careful who we share our homes with.

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In this story, a woman faced an argument with her sister after she asked her if she could host her 21st birthday party at her house. She initially agreed, believing that she would only invite 10 to 15 guests and that it would be a chilled out get-together.
Her sister turned out to have other plans, inviting 40 people. She demanded that she halve the guest list, but she was not willing to uninvite people who had already been told they could come. As a result, the woman told her she could not host her party at the house at all. Her sister and parents were upset, but she wanted validation for her point of view.
Am I wrong for cancelling my sisters birthday party at my house after she invited 40 people without asking?

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