Absent classmate accuses diligent student of being selfish, after she refuses to share her class notes with him, despite repeatedly doing so in the past, sparking disagreement among friend group: 'I feel like I’m being used and enabling him to skip class'

There are two types of students: Those who actually pick up a pen and write on the page, and those who take pictures of it…

There is no doubt that the majority of success comes from hard work, and that piggybacking off someone else's effort can only get you so far in life…But it's evident that some people are willing to test just how far they can get, before actually having to put their own two feet on the ground…This is definitely not a new concept, nor is it something that starts and ends in middle school…Freeloading 'friends' can be found in schools, colleges, and most certainly in the working-world. That is why it's essential to know the difference between a genuine fellow student or coworker and someone who is using you to reach the finish line with minimal speed and effort.

This student's middle name is practically diligence, and at this point, she's starting to get back pains from carrying the weight of her lazy classmate. After months of the same cycle: Him never showing up to class, and her giving him access to all her notes. An endless cycle that she realizes is no longer serving her, and frankly, making her feel pretty used. So one day, when he contacts her asking for notes on the classes he missed, she refuses to help him out…Recommending that he ask the teacher for advice if he's feeling behind in the content.

This classmate dispute tends to cause a divide in the friendgroup…With some agreeing with her, finally putting her foot down, and others claiming that her refusal is selfish and uncalled for!

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AITAH for refusing to keep giving my notes to someone who never shows up?

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Here are 5 effective ways to get other students to stop asking to use your notes:
1.) Blame your schedule
“Sorry, I've been swamped with classes and extracurriculars. Maybe ask someone else if you need it soon.”
2.) Redirect them
Lead them to the water, but don't hold the glass for them…"Try asking the lecturer or checking the slides, you'll find everything you need there."
3.) Give less, not nothing
If saying no is more difficult for you, send a vague summary instead of full notes, and hopefully they'll stop relying on you.
4.) Be consistent
Don’t listen to the “just this once” excuse, that’s why they keep coming back. Repeat your response until they finally get the hint.
1.) Just say no
No explanation needed.
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