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After 10 years together, my boyfriend says I should “just give my DOB” to his mom, but in my culture that has bigger implications. Am I overreacting?
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The boyfriend’s mom sees it as a simple step, but for someone who’s spent years defending her thesis and setting boundaries in academic circles, it’s another reminder that her comfort is being treated like a footnote. The real irony is that the person who’s mastered complex research and can cite sources on demand is now expected to treat her own timeline as negotiable. The pressure to give in, to keep the peace, is a familiar script, but she’s learned that the best way to handle bureaucracy is with a firm, polite no.
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Holding a boundary isn’t being difficult, it’s about wanting to make choices that feel right, not just convenient. The real test isn’t about whether a date is shared, it’s whether a partner can support that clarity without taking sides. Sometimes the most telling moments are when the request is framed as peacekeeping, not partnership. At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is who gets to decide what’s reasonable, and she’s not about to let anyone rush her dissertation or her life.
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