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    35-year-old's helicopter parents refuse to let him accept an offer that pays $23,000 more than his last job: 'They want me to turn this opportunity down [...] and keep looking for local jobs in Kansas'

    Most parents would be thrilled if their son had been offered a $23,000 annual salary increase, but this guy's entitled folks took issue with this new opportunity.

    Let this story serve as a reminder that not everyone necessarily has your best interest at heart. Not even your parents! Now, when you're financially dependent on your parents, it can be hard to make your own decisions about what's best for you. However, it is much easier to trust your own instincts and go with your gut when it comes to big changes in your life once you've reached adulthood.

    This author recently got fired from his job just before the holidays. Naturally, he was not in the best of moods when he was staying with his parents in Kansas over the holidays. That being said, he went back to the drawing board and spent much of his free time during this period looking for new opportunities. 

    Eventually, he happened to find a dream job in Denver. Sure, this would require him to uproot his life and move away from his parents. However, he seemed to be attracted to the idea of a locational change. Plus, the new job paid so much more than the last one. He expected his parents to be fully supportive of his decision to take the job… but he was surprised to learn that they would rather have him make far less money if it meant that he stayed closer to home.

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    • The author's parents had been empty nesters for years now, yet they still seemed far too attached to their children, both of whom are in their mid-to-late thirties. As for the author, he was disappointed to learn that his parents were not thrilled about this offer. He was even more upset when they suggested he apply to local positions in his hometown for which he was overqualified. These positions all paid less than his previous job as well.

      This kind of failure on the part of the author's parents to see how they were coming from a self-centered place just goes to show that it's about time that this 35-year-old man detach himself from their overprotectiveness. In fact, there is no better way to do this than to take the job and move far away from them. We wish him the best of luck as he makes this change that seems to be a long time in the making.

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    • "My controlling parents don't want me to move away"

      I'm 35, got fired from my last job right before the holidays with zero explanation. Two weeks later I got an offer in Denver for $83k ($23k more than my last job) but my parents yell saying
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    • "It's too expensive! $83,000 isn't that much, not enough to live anywhere else but here." "It's too cold!"
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    • "What are you going to do with your house??" "If you sell you'll never afford to buy another home!"
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    • "If you rent it out and the job doesn't work, you won't have a place to go back to!" "If you rent it out, whoever you rent to will destroy your property!"
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    • "Where are you going to put your stuff if you rent it out??" They want me to turn this opportunity down (which means staying on unemployment until something else comes up or that runs out), stay put and keep looking for local jobs in Kansas.
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    • My dad sent me a job posting for an administrative assistant at a local university for $15k less than I was making at my last job. I've been a project manager for 7 years, an admin assistant job photocopying some old dude's documents, arranging his folders,
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    • scheduling his meetings, sounds like a huge step back to me. That is a job I would hate and I am overqualified for. He shouted at me I was " applying for it. stupid" for not
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    • Meanwhile my sister is turning 38 and has never moved out of my parents' house and doesn't drive herself anywhere (mom drives her to AND from work every day) which they have no problem with.
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    • Why aren't they questioning what is she doing with her life? They're so hands-off when it comes to her life choices.
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    • What's crazier is their talk is making me second guess my new gig. I turned down a job in Boston two years because of this type of pressure, and looked what happened to me. I took a pay cut and then got fired. Now I'm thinking about to doing it again.
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    • There's no support for me whatsoever. They say I'm gonna fail and not have anything to come back to. I'm all torn up about their behavior and doubting.
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    • parkesc Starting now, don't tell them anything. Make all your preparations and leave as quietly as possible.
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    • PHLSchwarmer Take the job, shut everything down, and leave your family (and Kansas) behind. Your reward will start with the ever-decreasing view of all that nonsense in the rear- view mirror of your life. Good luck in Denver!
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    • ThginkAccbeR Just go. Be the adult you are.
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    • Initial-Shop-8863 Everyone gets 1 life in this world. Your parents get to control theirs. You get yours. They don't get to have or control your life too... unless you want them to.
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    • Live your life. Try to ignore their trying to control yours and use you as their local security blanket. Do what's right for you.
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    • brianozm If you rent out your place, you still own it and could eventually move back into it, if you come back. Use a good property manager to manage it and don't let your parents near it.
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    • Magdovus Ah well, looks like they're on an info diet from now. Live your life.
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    • committedlikethe... One of the things that's hardest to learn in life is not to share your good news with everyone. And in your case- especially your parents.
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    • Keep putting those big girl pants on and take the job. Denver is an awesome city with lots of opportunities. You can't stay their little girl forever.
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    • Why don't your parents still live with their parents? Because they had to be an adult at some point in their life and have responsibilities.
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    • An adult son and his older father sit on the stairs indoors at home looking at a tablet.
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      Image is representative only and does not depict the actual subjects of the story.

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