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Controlling mom shows up crying at her 24-year-old daughter’s job after 23 missed calls, accusing her in front of coworkers and boss: ‘She was crying in the lobby, telling the receptionist that her daughter abandons her’

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  • Daughter speaks with visible frustration as her mother looks distressed and rubs her temple, overlaid with text about a humiliating apology at work
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  • I can feel my body shaking just typing this.. my mom showed up at my workplace and caused a scene because I didn't answer her calls

    I'm 24 and moved out two years ago. Best decision of my life honestly but my mom still acts like she has control over everything I do.
  • Yesterday I was in back to back meetings all morning (I work in marketing) and couldn't check my phone.
  • When I finally looked during lunch I had 23 missed calls from her and a bunch of texts saying "CALL ME NOW" and "WHY ARE YOU IGNORING ME" and "THIS IS URGENT." I called her back immediately thinking something serious happened.
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  • Nope. She wanted to know if I could pick up a package for her on my way home because she "might not be home when it arrives." That was the emergency.
  • A package that wasn't even being delivered until next week. I told her I was busy and couldn't talk long and that she cant blow up my phone like that at work.
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  • Mother and daughter point at each other while sitting on a sofa, showing visible frustration during a heated conversation
  • She started crying saying I don't care about her and that I've changed since moving out and I'm "too good for her now." Here's where it gets insane - two hours later my BOSS comes to get me saying theres someone in the lobby asking for me.
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  • It was my mom. She drove 40 minutes to my office to "make sure I was actually at work" and not "ignoring her on purpose." She was crying in the lobby telling the receptionist that her daughter abandons her.
  • I had to apologize to my boss and explain the situation. So humiliating. When I told her to leave she made a scene about how I'm embarrassing HER.
  • I'm so done.
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  • MarcusBuer She is sabotaging you, she wants you to lose your job so you need to go back to living with her. Talk to HR about having her trespassed from the place. You might also want to consult a lawyer to have a restraining order against her. Stop all contact with her, do not reward her with attention, that's what she wants. If you talk to her she will do this every time she wants your attention. Now she is the enemy, and should be treated like an enemy.
  • Nice_Cartoonist_8803 I just want to reassure you that your job does not think this is a negative reflection on you or your work. You handled it very well.
  • PinkHairAnalyst Notify HR and Security to remove her from the premises if she shows up again. If no Security at your job, notify HR that they are to call the police. Explain the whole situation.
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  • RalphMacchio404 She crossed a big line. Time to go nc
  • PattylceNY You are handling this well, she really tried to ruin your job and you showed resolve and stayed focused, well done. One pattern I think I'm seeing with NC is that the narcissistic person literally freezes the relationship in their mind and refuses to admit that the person is gone: they simply go on their lives making it their mission to act like nothing has changed until the person returns. The longer it goes on though, the more batshit crazy their attempts becomes. My biological dad
  • Critical-Crab-7761 That's embarrassing but you didn't need to apologize to your boss, although it's a natural reaction. Your boss can see her by her actions, and knows you can't control someone else's behavior. Your mom looked like the ass here, not you. Don't feel bad and just put it behind you at work. She is over the top. Tell her you will not jeopardize your job playing this game. If she can't wait for a return call when you have time, she needs to contact someone else. If it's truly an emer
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  • heartburn-on-fiyah My mom pulled this with me while I worked in an emergency department. Thankfully I'd moved out of state but she'd call and text all the time and demand I answer immediately. Which I did not. On account of dealing with emergencies all day. My mom and dad both told me I was such an awful child for not responding to my mom during my shifts and my job is not harder than theirs. One of several reasons we don't talk anymore.

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