Friend's boyfriend calls out woman for unread books on her bookshelf, doubles down and calls her 'defensive': 'I don't have a safe where I keep all my books I haven't gotten around to reading yet'

Do you keep unread books on your bookshelf? Where do you keep them if you don't?

We all have certain habits that we would rather keep to ourselves. We have that weird little thing that we'd rather nobody else know about. This is always the risk of having somebody over to your house for the first time. They might pick up on the fact that you keep your vitamins in the refrigerator so that you always know where they are and remember to take them. Or they might spy your secret collection of romance novels that you're not so proud to be a reader of. But rather than foibles, these are things that should give us the opportunity to be vulnerable. They let people into our lives and see what we're really like behind closed doors.

But what should never be tolerated is judgment. We don't deserve to be judged for anything we do in the privacy of our own home that doesn't harm anybody else. And if somebody tries to come along and judge us for it, then they're not a welcome houseguest. The person in the story confronted that situation head-on. But the problem was, she was being judged for something that everybody does. I don't know a single person who reads books who has read every single volume on their shelf. Sometimes we pick up a book to save for later. And then you still need somewhere to keep them. Anyone who has a bookshelf has books they haven't read on it.

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That doesn't mean that you're an anti-intellectual, or that you don't read. It means that there are a few you haven't read yet. But the man in the story decided to judge his friend for doing so. But his judgment actually revealed a lot more about his own insecurities than the person that he was trying to judge. Problems continued to arise when the friend caught in the middle tried to take sides and ended up embroiling the drama further. Read on to see exactly what happened in the story and decide what you would've done in her situation.
Am I in the wrong for having a book on my bookshelf I haven't read?

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Commenters agreed that this was a wild thing to call someone out for.

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