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Dad uses his baby daughter's college fund to buy a boat, wife finds out and accuses him of being selfish, he refuses to admit to his mistake: ‘He drained her fund to make the down payment’

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    "He accused me of not wanting him to have any hobbies outside of being a dad"
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    AIO for telling my husband I'm upset he used our baby's college fund to buy a boat?

    My husband "Mark" and I have a 2-year- old daughter. Since she was born, we've been putting money every month into a dedicated college savings account for her.
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    It's something we both agreed was a huge priority, and we've built up a decent amount.
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    It's not enough for a full four years, but it was a great start. This past weekend, Mark surprised me, but not in a good way.
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    He took me to the marina and showed me a brand new speedboat. He was so excited, saying he got a "ki er deal" and that it was his dream.
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    I was confused until he admitted he'd drained our daughter's entire college fund to make the down payment and cover the first year's storage fees.
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    was absolutely furious. I told him he was selfish and that he stole from our child's future.
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    He's completely defensive, saying that we can "build the fund back up" and that I'm overreacting.
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    He says I'm not being supportive of his happiness and that "life is for living," and we should enjoy our money now.
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    He accused me of not wanting him to have any hobbies or joy outside of being a dad.
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    I haven't been able to look at him since. I feel so betrayed, not just for me, but for our daughter.
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    He thinks I'm being a controlling and miserable wife for not sharing his excitement. Am I overreacting for being this angry and for telling him he has to sell it immediately?
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    2 Year Old Girl
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    Bright Athlete_8579 I'd be getting a divorce.
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    TheHobbyWaitress Does he think you're going to relax with a 2yo on a speed boat? I wonder if that even cross his mind.
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    LofiGhost1 You are not overreacting he didn't just buy a boat he gambled with your child's future and thats not "living life" thats reckless.
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    Cursd818 You are underreacting. Tell him to replace every penny of your contributions that he stole, at once. Secure your finances so that he can't access them in ANY way. And then, ask yourself if you want to be married to a man who will steal from you and your daughter to fund his rash purchases. Your financial future is currently tied to this awful man, and he's just made it very clear that he can and will risk your finances whenever he wants. Your daughter and you deserve better.
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    Fluffy-Resident8420 NOR- He knew it was wrong or he wouldn't have "surprised" you. He committed financial infidelity. You can not be in a good relationship with someone you can't trust.
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    Fast-Secretary5520 You're not overreacting... your husband made a selfish, unilateral decision that jeopardizes your child's future. Wanting him to sell the boat and rebuild the fund is completely reasonable. This isn't about hobbies... it's about trust, priorities, and parenting.
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    DryStatistician7055 Please tell me this is fake.
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    Inner_Astronaut6662 You are not exaggerating, do not collect anything with him again, do not help him withdraw the money either, he is irresponsible, if he wants to have hobbies he should do it exclusively with his money, without compromising the family budget or the future of your daughter.
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    MimbleWimble1 He cheated on you financially. You have every right to be upset.

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