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Interviewer tells candidate to stop talking when candidate's refusal to let them speak leads to candidate literally talking himself out of a job: 'You walked into this room with a 99 percent chance of getting the job. Now that chance is zero'

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    "AITAH for telling a guy to shut up during a job interview"

    I was interviewing this guy for a very good software engineering position. He passed the first round, and both I and everyone involved in the second round really liked his resume and experience. On paper, he had everything we were looking for, and honestly, this looked like a life-changing opportunity for him. Then he shows up, very serious and not smiling at all. I'm used to that in tech interviews, and I understand it can be an intimidating environment.
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    We did a round of introductions, and then he opened the interview by saying, "Let me tell you a little bit about myself." We said, okay, go for it. He started talking and talking about his personal and professional background. After about three minutes, I jumped in to ask a follow-up question based on something he mentioned. He replied, "I will answer, just give me a moment," and continued talking. A coworker jumped in with another question, and he said the same thing to her.
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    At this point, we were kind of looking at each other, but decided to let him continue and give him the benefit of the doubt. But after more than five minutes, I jumped in again with another question. I had to talk over him to do it. He finally paused and answered, but in such a long-winded way that he ended up veering into another topic. My coworker asked another question, and the same thing happened.
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    At this point, I was ready to end the interview. I tried to politely wrap it up several times, but he was unable to read the room and just kept talking. I finally raised my voice slightly and said something like, "Thank you very much. for sharing your background. In the interest of time, I'd like to ask if you have any questions for us." This is standard protocol and helps us prepare answers for future interviews.
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    He asked a question about the team. As I was answering, he raised his finger and interrupted to talk more about his background. I let it go. Then he asked another question, which my coworker started to answer, but again, he spoke over her to talk about himself. I tried once more to interrupt politely, but he kept talking.
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    At that point, I was done. I said, "John, you really have to shut up and listen." He was surprised, as was my coworker, but he finally stopped talking. I continued, "You walked into this room with a 99 percent chance of getting the job. Now that chance is zero. The only reason is because, in less than fifteen minutes, you've demonstrated that you don't have the capacity to listen at all. So I'm telling you now, you're not getting the job. But if you take anything away from this interview, let it
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    I replied, "You had your chance. Best of luck in your future interviews. Make sure you listen." Looking back, I know I could have handled that differently, but I still feel bad for the guy.
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    ElemWiz NTA. Honestly, he needed to hear it from someone in a position of hiring authority. Sure, his ego may be bruised, but that likely needed to happen.
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    Ok-Accident-7128 NTA there's always someone like this and maybe you gave him pause for thought in life being blunt. You probably avoided a future PITA too.
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    Billy JayJersey 505 You actually gave him more feedback than many people would have. NTAH
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    Frejian NTA In this day and age of litigious- happy people, it is very rare for a candidate to get legitimate feedback, especially about why specifically they are NOT getting a job that hasn't gone through 5 different HR sanitization protocols to the point of being useless. You did this guy a favor by actually being honest with him and giving him actionable feedback for future interviews. If he can't understand that, then he is only proving you more correct in your assessment. Were you a bit har
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    No-Sea1173 NTA. He needed something harsh to cut through the internal monologue spilling out into the room. You did him a massive favour.
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    WithAnAitchDammit NTA I messed up interviewing someone once. It was someone that worked with my then wife (now ex). Interview was going OK and he started dropping f-bombs. I don't mind foul language. The army taught me how to use "f like it's a comma. But there's a time and place for it and an interview is not the place. I hired him against my better judgement and ended up firing him a year later because he was horrible at his job. Trust your guts, you made the right call.

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