‘He can’t find anyone willing to hire him. My parents pay to support him’: Mid-30s brother moves back in with parents as they relocate 15-hours closer to their daughter pushing the young mother to keep her kids away and ban visits to their new home

Your parents moving fifteen hours just to be closer, only to haul along your grown, and, how shall I put it, somewhat problematic and extremely angry full-grown mid-30s brother, is quite a milestone. This is a man whose main hobbies are job loss, shouting matches, and refusing therapy. For this mother of young kids, the dream of grandparents nearby quickly curdled into a logistical nightmare, with her brother's temper and unpredictable outbursts looming over every potential visit. The family script is familiar: parents sacrifice and relocate, but can't seem to detach from the adult child who treats every minor disagreement as a personal affront.

This brother's resume is a Best of reel of HR disasters and holiday catastrophes, making him a repeat offender on the "not around my kids" list. Yet somehow, the real family crime is daring to prioritize peace and safety over the sacred tradition of forced togetherness. The guilt trip arrives right on schedule, with her mother lamenting lost grandchild time and her brother firing off angry messages, as if wanting a calm environment is an act of war.

AITA for telling my parents that I will not visit their house while my brother lives with them even though they're moving to my town from out of state?

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So when this daughter calmly sets her terms, namely, no visits to the new house while her brother is in residence, it is not about punishment or drama. It is about protecting her children, maintaining her sanity, and refusing to let family ties become a free pass for bad behavior. The moving boxes may be full of hopes and memories, but she is keeping her boundaries unpacked and ready for use.
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