“AITA for refusing to give my sister rides after she spent her inheritance and demanded my car?”
"I am 23 years old, i have a sister and about a yera ago our father passed awayAs an inheritance, I received his car, and my sister received the money from his bank account. At the time, the values were pretty much equal, so nobody had any complaints, and everything was split fairly. However, a couple of months ago, my sister started constantly asking me for rides, either to hang out with her friends or to run her errands. In the beginning, I viewed this as normal family support, so I drove her around without any issues.
Recently, she started getting entitled and acting like my car was her own property. She began telling me where to drive, how to manage my car, and how I should be driving. On top of that, she never once offered to pay for gas. When I got tired of this, I told her that she should just buy her own car. In response, my sister admitted that she had already spent all the inheritance money. She then claimed that since the car came from our father, it was only fair that I should share this inheritance with her. I told her she was talking nonsense, and I completely refused to drive her anymore."
"A few days ago, early in the morning, she called me just an hour before she had to leave. She demanded that I drive her to work immediately, claiming she would be late otherwise. I refused and told her that she could easily order a taxi or take public transportation. She just insulted me and hung up. A few hours later, our mother called me and started lecturing me.
She said I was being unfair because our father left the car to me instead of her, and she claimed that if my sister had received the car, she would have always helped me and driven me around. I honestly do not understand this logic, because my sister had the money to get her license and buy her own car, but she chose to blow it all on other things.
AITA?"
That frustration spilled into the Reddit AITA subreddit when the brother posted his story to open a debate about whether he was right or wrong in how he was handling the situation.
It seems his sister started to rely on him for transportation. It was no longer interpreted as a kind favor he was doing for her; she actually felt entitled to it. And the most absurd part is that she didn't even contribute to gas or insurance. She even went so far as to tell him how he should drive and how he should manage his vehicle, and the whole situation escalated when she demanded that he drive her to work, as if he were obligated to comply with some rule they had agreed on. This kind of logic would only make sense if she had shared her inheritance money with him. But that is clearly not what happened here, since she already spent her inheritance. So, whatever her brother does is really out of kindness. She has no right to demand anything.
But the worst part of it all is that even the mother takes her side. Financial fairness is already difficult to achieve in families, but it becomes even harder when a parent cannot make a fair judgment of the situation. The mother could have approached the problem with a more neutral perspective, but it seems the sister will keep getting special treatment.
Here are some of the reactions in the comments:
“Tell your mother that she is welcome to drive your sister around if she feels so strongly about it.”
"NTA
Sharing goes both ways. If she wants to share your car, ask her for half the money she got."
“NTA. Tell her you’ll split yours when she splits hers.”
“NTA. Tell your mom that she had the same value on cash and she never shared it with you”
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