Grandma-to-be flips out when mom refuses to name unborn child after brother who passed away when she was 16: 'She told me I was being cold-hearted'

Welcoming a new baby into the family should be a time of happiness and harmony between parents and their adult kids. In many cases, though, it turns out to be anything but. There are two things that bring up old issues and grudges between relatives like no other, and they are weddings and producing a grandkid (if they are one of the first in particular).

It could be argued that when you are pregnant, you have enough problems to worry about without having to think about your family's demands. Still, that doesn't stop some parents from causing a fuss. Parenthood is a topic that everybody has an opinion on and those who are closely related to you usually do not hold back in sharing it.

What's even worse is how some grandparents-to-be try and live vicariously through their expecting children. Like it or not, it isn't their place to do that.

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This is a predicament that one woman found herself in when expecting her first child with her husband. She found out she was having a boy and as a result, her mom was pressuring her to name him after her older brother, who had passed at the age of 20 in a car accident. She didn't want to do this as she had experienced a difficult relationship with her sibling, but when she expressed this to her mother, she caused a lot of upset to her and to her wider family. This all led her to seek advice on whether she was being unreasonable.
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AITA for refusing to name my son after my late brother?

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Commenters did not hold back on what they thought about the situation.

The conclusion was unanimous: mom was overstepping, and needed to take a long, hard look at how she was processing her grief.

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$Western_Fuzzy NTA in any capacity. It's weird that your family are insisting that you name your child something because of "how much it would mean to your mother" - your child is not a tribute or a shrine. You're not being selfish, and considering your relationship with your brother and the lack of intervention from your parents, it's galling that they're demanding this from you. I get that losing a child is fracturing and completely devastating, but she cannot impose her grief onto you. It's un$

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Grandma-to-be flips out when mom refuses to name unborn child after brother who passed away when she was 16: 'She told me I was being cold-hearted'

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