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Man Sends Female Friend a Thoughtful Get Well Package, Enraging Her Insecure Boyfriend: 'Stop trying to upstage me!'

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    r/AmltheA [deleted] .3d AITA for sending my friend a 'Get Well Soon' package?
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    One of my (36M) really good friends posted on Facebook that she (40F) caught a really bad cold and has been holed up in her apartment for days. I felt bad, so I went to the store and bought some items to ship to her as a care package: Orange juice, cough drops, lemon ginger tea bags, and DVD set of one of her favorite shows. She DMed me to say thank you and that my care package really cheered me up.
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    That good feeling soured when her boyfriend called me up to accuse me of trying to upstage him. I told him that I was trying to be nice, but he started throwing all these wild accusations around and accused me of trying to get into her pants. I apologized for making him feel that way, and told him that my intentions were purely out of friendship.
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    I've known my female friend for YEARS and have never tried anything on her. Also, I'm married. Getting into my friend's pants was the ABSOLUTE last thing on my mind! AITA for stepping on her BF's toes? 4,438 251 D
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    Eastern-Warthog-6946 • 3d NTA. If your kindness made him look and feel crappy, that is on him. You can only be accountable for your intentions, which btw, we're extremely considerate. You do you Reply 6.4k
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    [deleted] OP. 3d Thanks, friend. If I see you in the streets, I'm buying you ice cream. ... 2k
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    Snowey212 3d You sound awesome, unfortunately there is a small percentage of people who only act nice to others to leverage something out of the situation for themselves and assume anyone else behaving in a kind compassionate way must be doing the same. NTA 23⇓
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    MzQueen 3d . Absolutely! Kindness is what keeps your friends around. OP, you couldn't upstage him since he wasn't even in the theatre. ... 13
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    Jonny_rhodes • 3d NTA If he can't be bothered to care for his girlfriend whilst ill why shouldn't her friends Regardless of gender Intentions of friendship are just that Never feel sorry for being a friend Reply 1.2k
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    [deleted] OP. 3d >Never feel sorry for being a friend This should be on a billboard somewhere. Thanks for saying that. 573
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    Even_Enthusiasm7223 • 3d You did nothing wrong, he's just jealous because you gave her a more thoughtful gift while she was sick than he did. Because he probably did absolutely nothing and upstaging him could have been sending her a box of tissues. He's jealous and upset that you were more thoughtful than he was. Nta, but the boyfriend sure is ← Reply 481
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    Carbonation Required • 3d NTA. If you "upstaged" him it's because he's insecure. His reaction should've been "holy sh, wife, friend just sent you some stuff to help you recover, why don't I make this tea for you and put the DVD in?" And if he wanted to show off by doing more then he could do something helpful for HER instead of moaning about it to you. Reply 175
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    Rohini_rambles 3d Low effort partners are often very aggressive towoards other people who show their partners decency and kindness, they hate when others raise the bar for human behavior because they don't want to do the work. He iis feeling ashamed because you cared more than he did. Instead of doing the healthy thing and considering why he felt that way anad deciding to be a better partner, it's far easier to accuse you and shame you. NTA keep being awesome. ... Reply 169
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    oranges214 • 3d I have also seen this with low effort/uncaring parents who get aggro at teachers or fellow parents who show their kids kindness and support. It's heartbreaking. 58
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    [deleted] OP. 3d Wonderful analysis. Thank you so much. Д 34
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    NapalmAxolotl 3d Yeah, we've had various posts like this before, for the same reason. Sometimes the friend knows the boyfriend is kind of crappy, sometimes they don't know much about the relationship, but that doesn't make a difference. Being a good friend is never the wrong choice, just because it shows that someone else isn't so good.
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    (You wouldn't be romantically interested if your friend was single, which proves your good intentions; this is definitely not some kind of passive aggressive game playing.) 17
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    - CrimsonKnight_004 • 3d NTA The boyfriend is insecure and apparently felt called out by your thoughtfulness. That speaks volumes about him and his own apparent lack of attentiveness to her needs, and it doesn't reflect on you as a person at all. You're an awesome friend, don't let this clown damper than. ← Reply 56 ⇓
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    Squinky75 • 3d She needs a new boyfriend. Can you put one in the next care package? Reply 54
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    DgShwgrl .3d Ah le Enthusiast [5] This made me giggle! I was thinking, I bet friend asked her bf to run to the store and get some cold and flu meds, and he was "too busy" or "forgot" to do it. That's the only reason I can think of for such a gross overreaction.
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    NTA. sugarlump858 Part 3d ipant [1] I got that reaction once from a friend's husband. She had a nasty flu. I took her to the urgent care. When I brought her home, I noticed he had left trash, dishes, laundry, and assorted all over. When I'm sick, I feel even worse around messes. So, I straightened up. He got all at me. Yes, he was home. Couldn't be bothered to take her to the doctor. Couldn't be bothered to clean up after himself. Whatever jo-jo. I left and got her a vitamin smoothie. Reply 45 ✩
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    [deleted] OP. 3d Wow, i'm sorry that happened to you. You are a wonderful friend. ... 5 A 20
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    Nepentheoi • 3d Omg, what an awful dude. You're cool though. Hope both you and your friend are doing great now. 8 ⇓

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